Saturday, October 17, 2009

Forgiving your ex

I have been thinking about forgiveness all week. Forgiveness may be the hardest thing to accomplish after divorce, but so necessary for your peace of mind. If you don't forgive your ex, yourself, or anyone who wrongs you, you will find yourself looking back over your shoulder and stumbling into an unclear future, but when you forgive, you put the past behind you and can then move forward in a positive manner, choosing happiness for yourself.

In Colossians 3:13 we read: "Forgive as freely as the Lord has forgiven you. And, above everything else, be truly loving, for love is the golden chain of all the virtues."

When we forgive as God has forgiven us, we experience a freedom we cannot imagine. Letting go allows us to move forward, allows us to release what we cannot control, and put it aside. If you have not forgiven someone who has wronged you, try looking at the situation from God's perspective and know there is nothing he will not forgive us. There is no wrong he will not disregard if we only ask. Take the time to forgive and though you may never forget, by forgiving the pain will ease and the control that person has had over you will be gone.

Take time this week to write about someone whom you are struggling to forgive. Think about the freedom you will experience if you do not allow the person to control you any longer, as that is exactly what occurs when you do not forgive. Write how you might come to forgiveness through prayer or meditation.

Have a great week! Choose Happiness!

13 comments:

Charlotte said...

I am so envious of your surroundings right now. We visited Switzerland in 1999 (Lucerne). It was so beautiful there.
You are so right about forgiveness. It isn't always easy to forgive. Sometimes it seems like it is almost impossible. I have found the story of Joseph and how he forgave his brothers so inspiring, and it helped me at a time when I needed to forgive some people big time. Forgiveness is not only imperative, because the Bible says we will be forgiven as we have forgiven others, but forgiving is so liberating. Thank you for this wonderful reminder.
Blessings,
Charlotte

P.S. I will be looking forward to seeing pictures.

Saleslady371 said...

Such good words about forgiveness and it is vital to forgive as Jesus forgave us.

Lisa said...

Forgiveness is so crucial... for everybody, but it is sometimes so hard to do. Don't ask me how I know.;)

Sue said...

What an awesome post!! I know first hand of the freedom that comes when you forgive someone who has wronged you. Thank you for sharing.
Continue to enjoy your time with your sister, and I will now pray for God to give you safe travel.
Blessings,
Sue

RCUBEs said...

Great reminder...We often don't see that when we are not able to forgive, we are the ones actually hurt, not the one who committed an offense to us...The worst thing...God does not like that when we can't...May you have a wonderful time with your sister and God bless.

Ginger~~Enchanting Cottage said...

Forgiveness, I think that this is something we tend to thinks not very important. But as the scripture clearly says we need to forgive freely as the Lord has done for us.
Thank-you for sharing your desire for being happy with us. I pray that you can touch someone's heart.
God Bless,
Ginger

Cathy said...

I think forgiving is a good thing for you to do. His Word says we are to forgive.

Debbie said...

This was a great post and so incrediably true. To let go and forgive is soo difficult at times, and without the Lord nearly impossible. It is always good to dwell on how much we are forgiven by Him. Thanks for sharing this, it was a good reminder. Blessings to you, Debbie ENJOY your time in Switzerland with your sister, how fun.

Susan said...

Forgiveness is truly one of the most difficult things we have to do but the Word of God is emphatic that we MUST forgive as He has forgiven us. There truly is freedom in forgiveness.
Susan

SmilingSally said...

Thank you! Forgiveness is a CHOICE, and although it's difficult, it is in our best interests to forgive. I hope that you have a happy Sunday.

Dayle ~ A Collection of Days said...

Excellent post! What most people seem to forget about forgiveness is the Bible says that unless we forgive others, we cannot be forgiven by God. Forgiving others sets you free.

Musings of A Minister said...

Tough subject! This is a timely and needed. Thank you for posting. I received your book this week and I am just starting to read it. I will be reviewing it soon. Thank you for helping others!!

Mary said...

Forgiveness does seem to be so difficult at times...our wounds can cut deeply and painfully, and the scabs only cover the surface...It is in forgiveness that the wounds heal, and the spirit is free to move on. Thanks for sharing this very insightful post.

God bless,
Mary